As long as she is capable of Old hippies don’t die they just fade into crazy grandparents shirt and where she is, we will hold off on the pity party and spend as much time as we can in laughing at our situations. Who knows, in the end we may outlive the reason for the pity party. For as long as it is possible I want her to be able to enjoy her life. Dementia is a war you cannot win, but it doesn’t necessarily follow that you must lose. Every day that you spend living independently, doing the things you love to do, smiling and laughing is a day won. And who can say that isn’t a victory even if it’s not living happily ever after.